The latest Gallup Poll on religion is in, and the numbers don’t look great for the Church.
While ¾ Americans identify as religious, fewer Americans identify as members of a specific parish, and the decline is even steeper among Catholics. But here’s the twist—many of these Catholics still attend Mass regularly.
Sound familiar? Maybe you, like many young adults, find yourself hopping from parish to parish, choosing a Mass based on convenience but never officially joining a community.
Between moving cities, new work schedules, and ever-changing life stages, committing to a parish can feel overwhelming. But here’s why it matters more than you might think.
Why Parish Membership Actually Matters
C.S. Lewis, in The Screwtape Letters, warns against church shopping, describing it as a tactic the devil uses to keep Christians uncommitted. His point? The Church isn’t about personal preferences—it’s about community, belonging, and growing in faith together.
When you officially pick a parish and join, you aren’t just checking a box. You’re putting down spiritual roots. You’re committing to being fed spiritually in a specific place, under the care of a particular pastor, and alongside fellow Catholics who will challenge and support you. The Catechism reminds us that the Church is made up of “particular Churches” (CCC 833)—real communities of believers, not just an abstract universal Church.
By joining a parish, you’re saying: I’m here. I belong. I’m invested in this community. And that investment matters. Your parish relies on you—not just for keeping the lights on but for building up the Body of Christ.
How to Pick a Parish
So, ready to commit? Here’s how to find the right parish for you:
Step 1: Find Your Local Parish
Most dioceses divide up regions into parishes based on geography. In many cases, the church closest to you is technically your parish. You can check your diocese’s website, call the local chancery, or simply search on MassTimes.org to find nearby Catholic churches.
If you’re choosing between multiple parishes, consider:
- Does this parish offer confession and adoration regularly?
- Are the sacraments celebrated reverently?
- Is there a strong community of people striving for holiness?
Step 2: Register as a Parishioner
Most parishes have an online registration form. If you can’t find it, give them a call or stop by after Mass. Registering helps the parish know who you are, stay in touch, and offer opportunities for involvement.
Step 3: Get Involved
Don’t just attend Mass—participate. Join a young adult group, sign up for a Bible study, volunteer for a ministry, or commit to a regular Holy Hour. Your gifts and presence can make a real impact on the parish community.
Learn how to show your parish priests that you appreciate everything they do. Find 20 ways how to do that here!
FAQ: Common Questions About How to Pick a Parish
Can I belong to a parish outside my neighborhood?
Yes! While it’s common to register at your local parish, some people choose a parish based on personal connections, spiritual growth, or ministry opportunities.
Do I have to officially register to be considered a parishioner?
Technically, if you attend a parish regularly, you’re already part of the community. However, registration helps you stay connected and allows the parish to plan resources accordingly.
What if I move a lot?
That’s okay! You can re-register at a new parish whenever you move. The important thing is making an effort to be part of a community wherever you are.
What if I don’t feel at home in my parish?
Give it time. Building relationships and deepening your faith in a parish takes effort. Try getting involved before making a final decision.
Belonging to a parish isn’t just about finding a place to attend Mass—it’s about committing to a faith-filled community that will help you grow in holiness. If you haven’t joined a parish yet, don’t wait. Take that step, get involved, and make your faith more than just a Sunday obligation—it’s meant to be lived in communion with others.
Additional Resources
Another great thing about finding a parish is the opportunity to find a great Adoration chapel/spot. Learn more about how to get the most out of your Adoration time in these blog posts: Eucharistic Adoration: Things To Do During Adoration and Why Do Catholics Go to Adoration?
And head to FOCUS Equip and our Youtube Channel for more on how to actively engage in your parish! Try these out: The Spiritual Life of a Missionary Disciple in the Parish and Beyond | Ann Lankford, FOCUS Retreats for Parishes, and How to Double Your Parish in Five Years | Jeff Cavins.
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